A boring sex life is something that happens to even the most passionate lovers at some point. It comes with being comfortable in your relationship. That’s certainly not a bad thing, but the sex life suffers with lack if inspiration once a regular routine sets in. 

Here are 5 kinky ideas for partners who are stuck in a sex rut from Sexpert Mayla Green, who writes for American sex toy brand, The Adult Toy Shop. Get your kinky inspiration on now, let’s go!

1. Dabble in Light Bondage

Bondage can be a thrilling way to enhance intimacy and introduce playful restraint. For beginners, items like ties, scarves, or straps are a great starting point. These household items can be used for bondage, using a strap to lightly restrain your partner, adding an element of trust and excitement.

Natural fiber ropes like cotton and hemp are recommended for their grip and comfort. Cotton ropes are especially durable and machine washable, making them a practical choice for bondage play. Always keep safety scissors on hand to ensure a quick release if necessary.

Start with simple knots like the lark’s head knot to securely tie your partner without causing discomfort. Consider the following steps:

• Use light bondage with ties or scarves to enhance intimacy by creating a sense of vulnerability and trust.
• Treat this as a gentle introduction to more advanced bondage techniques.
• Explore new dimensions of pleasure together through these methods.

2. Sex Toy & Dildo Play

Dildos are not just for solo play, couples are jumping on the King Cock dildo bandwagon and bringing realistic dildos into the bedroom to play with together. A penis dildo makes foreplay last longer since it’s not actually penetrative sex with the partners penis, but feels like the real thing. 

Another benefit of realistic dildo play is that you can get the threesome experience without another person there. Pick the dildo size of your choice – go for something big and let your lover enjoy a close-up view while in the throes of ecstasy.

Remote sex-tech toys enjoyed together in public can intensify sexual pleasure during date nights leading to better anticipation of sex. These combinations not only provide more stimulation but also introduce greater variety into your intimate experiences, after all, nothing is kinkier than a remote controlled realistic dildo! 

Using remote dildo vibrators in public is extra kinky – but make sure you’re in a park or loud setting outdoors – doing it in a quiet setting will reveal audible buzzing releasing your naughty secret, lol!

• 3. Erotic Biting and Spanking

Erotic biting and nibbling can add a thrilling twist to your intimate moments. Start by gently testing the waters with a playful nibble on your partner’s lip. This can signal your intentions and gauge their comfort level.

You can also nibble gently on your partner’s shoulders or other sensitive areas. Biting and nibbling during intimacy is a sign of passion and can heighten arousal. The key is to keep it playful and consensual, ensuring your partner is enjoying the sensation.

Spanking can add an element of excitement and arousal to your intimate moments. To ensure it’s enjoyable for both of you, consider the following:

• Start gently and communicate your preferences with your partner.
• Focus on creating a broad sensation rather than a narrow impact.
• Use light spanking to create a pleasurable sting that enhances arousal without causing discomfort.

To keep things interesting and heighten arousal when spanking:

• Vary the intensity and location.
• Experiment with different areas and levels of pressure to find what works best for you and your partner.
• Maintain open dialogue throughout the experience to ensure both partners are comfortable and enjoying themselves.

• 4. Massage as Foreplay

Massage can be an incredibly sensual form of foreplay. Techniques like gentle caressing and kneading can significantly enhance the sensuality of a massage, making it a perfect prelude to more intimate activities, including anal pleasure.

Using almond or coconut oils can add to the experience. These oils are not only moisturizing but also glide smoothly over the skin, making for a more enjoyable massage. A sensual oil massage can effectively relax and arouse your partner, setting the stage for an unforgettable night.

Slow, deliberate movements can induce relaxation or excitement, depending on the pressure and speed of your touch. So, grab some oil and give your partner a sensual massage that they’ll never forget.

• 5. Role-Playing Scenarios

Role-playing can bring a whole new level of excitement to your sex life. Experimenting with different fantasy scenarios allows you and your partner to switch roles and discover new aspects of your sexuality and break out of monotonous routines. 

Taking on new identities during sex can enhance intimacy and excitement. Whether you’re playing the roles of strangers meeting for the first time or exploring a power play, role reversal can make your encounters feel fresh and exhilarating.

Enhance your role-playing by dressing according to your chosen characters. Familiar scenarios and costumes can add to the fun and make the experience more immersive. So, let your imagination run wild and wear explore new dimensions of pleasure through dildos role-playing.